Part 3: Make a 'Love Map' Date

Tip: Spend a night learning about your partner’s world.

Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman coined the term Love Map: it’s your mental map of your partner’s inner world—hopes, fears, people they love, things that stress or excite them.

Plan a date night with one goal: updating your love maps. Ask fun and meaningful questions like:

• “What’s your favorite childhood memory?”
• “What’s something you’re dreaming about lately?”
• “Who’s someone that shaped your life in a big way?”

Even if you’ve been together for years, people change. Staying curious helps you grow with your partner.

This is especially great for engaged or long-term couples to keep emotional intimacy alive.