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Part 5: Use the '5:1' Rule

Part 5: Use the '5:1' Rule

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August 17, 2025
positive interactions

Tip: Aim for five positive interactions for every negative one.

Research shows thriving couples have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions—even during conflict.

This includes small things:

  • Compliments
  • Laughter
  • Acts of service
  • Physical affection
  • Warm greetings

Next time you’re together, notice how often your interactions are positive vs. critical or neutral. Make a conscious effort to appreciate, affirm, and show affection more often.

Whether dating or married, this rule helps build goodwill that cushions harder conversations. A positive tone is a powerful foundation.