conflict management

Tip: Have a real date at least once a month (ideally weekly). After the early excitement of dating fades, many couples unintentionally stop dating each other. But ongoing courtship is crucial to keeping the spark alive. Plan intentional time together: Dating isn’t just for the early stage. It’s a mindset—one that says, “I still choose you.” For …

Tip: Choose a safe word or phrase to pause a tense moment. Sometimes, in the heat of a disagreement, things escalate too fast. That’s where a conflict code word comes in. It’s a pre-agreed phrase either of you can use to pause the conversation and cool down. It could be light-hearted like “pineapple,” or sincere like “reset.” …

Tip: When you’re unsure, choose to believe your partner’s intentions are good. Misunderstandings can quickly turn into hurt feelings. One of the most powerful mindset shifts in any relationship is choosing to assume the best about your partner. Did they forget to call you back? Maybe they were overwhelmed, not careless. Did they respond curtly? Maybe they’re …

Tip: Aim for five positive interactions for every negative one. Research shows thriving couples have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions—even during conflict. This includes small things: Next time you’re together, notice how often your interactions are positive vs. critical or neutral. Make a conscious effort to appreciate, affirm, and show affection more …