managing conflict

Tip: When you’re unsure, choose to believe your partner’s intentions are good. Misunderstandings can quickly turn into hurt feelings. One of the most powerful mindset shifts in any relationship is choosing to assume the best about your partner. Did they forget to call you back? Maybe they were overwhelmed, not careless. Did they respond curtly? Maybe they’re …

Tip: Aim for five positive interactions for every negative one. Research shows thriving couples have a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions—even during conflict. This includes small things: Next time you’re together, notice how often your interactions are positive vs. critical or neutral. Make a conscious effort to appreciate, affirm, and show affection more …

Tip: Create a recurring event that’s just for you two. Life gets busy. A weekly ritual—something simple and consistent—can create powerful bonding time. This might be: The key is consistency. This ritual becomes a touchpoint in your week, something to look forward to. For dating couples, it builds anticipation and shared memory. For married couples, …

Tip: Spend a night learning about your partner’s world. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman coined the term Love Map: it’s your mental map of your partner’s inner world—hopes, fears, people they love, things that stress or excite them. Plan a date night with one goal: updating your love maps. Ask fun and meaningful questions like: Even …