Part 2: Mastering the “Repair Attempt”

Tip: When conflict starts, use humor or kindness to reset tension.

Every couple argues—but healthy couples know how to “repair” before things spiral. A repair attempt is a way to cool things down mid-conflict.

This might look like:

• A light joke to break the tension.
• Saying, “Let’s pause—I don’t want to fight.”
• Reaching for your partner’s hand.

You’re not ignoring the issue; you’re protecting your connection while working through it.

If you’re dating, now is the time to learn this skill. If you’re engaged or married, repair attempts keep conflicts from damaging trust. Watch how your tone softens when you remember you’re on the same team.