Tip: Spend a night learning about your partner’s world.
Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman coined the term Love Map: it’s your mental map of your partner’s inner world—hopes, fears, people they love, things that stress or excite them.
Plan a date night with one goal: updating your love maps. Ask fun and meaningful questions like:
- “What’s your favorite childhood memory?”
- “What’s something you’re dreaming about lately?”
- “Who’s someone that shaped your life in a big way?”
Even if you’ve been together for years, people change. Staying curious helps you grow with your partner.
This is especially great for engaged or long-term couples to keep emotional intimacy alive.
Part 2: Mastering the “Repair Attempt”